What is Get Abuse?
GET abuse is when one partner uses the Get as a means to manipulate or extort their spouse.
This can include threatening to withhold the Get as a way to gain custody or using the Get to extort a financial settlement. Get abuse is not always as clear cut or recognizable as straight out Get refusal. No beit din, community or leadership should allow Get abuse and there are resources available for those who are struggling.
We created the 10 Commandments of Get abuse to help communities be proactive in safeguarding Jewish marriage and reducing Get abuse.
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Domestic Abuse Hotlines
If you need assistance to know your rights, leave an abusive situation or get a better understanding of whether you are in an abusive situation, these hotlines can help:
(Languages include English, Hebrew, Yiddish, Russian, Spanish and Hungarian)
24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline:
Jewish Women’s Aid Domestic
020 8445 8060
Sexual Violence Support Line: 0808-801-0656
Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge)
0808 2000 247
Men’s Advice Line (run by Respect) is a confidential helpline for male victims
0808 801 0327
NSPCC helpline - advice and support for concerns about a child
0808 800 5000
If you believe there is an immediate risk of harm to someone, or it is an emergency, you should always call 999
These organizations assist people around the world through the Jewish divorce process.
ORA offers guidance and assistance as well as numerous resources.
Jewish Federation of LA
6505 Wilshire Blvd.
Los Angeles, CA 90048
Unchain My Heart provides support, advocacy and referrals for those unable to receive a Get in Australia