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What is Get Abuse?

GET abuse is when one partner uses the Get as a means to manipulate or extort their spouse.

This can include threatening to withhold the Get as a way to gain custody or using the Get to extort a financial settlement. Get abuse is not always as clear cut or recognizable as straight out Get refusal. No beit din, community or leadership should allow Get abuse and there are resources available for those who are struggling.

10 commandments

We created the 10 Commandments of Get abuse to help communities be proactive in safeguarding Jewish marriage and reducing Get abuse.

Download a copy for your shul or community bulletin!


Domestic Abuse Hotlines

If you need assistance to know your rights, leave an abusive situation or get a better understanding of whether you are in an abusive situation, these hotlines can help:


United States

Shalom Task Force Domestic Abuse Hotline:


(Languages include English, Hebrew, Yiddish, Russian, Spanish and Hungarian) 

24/7 National Domestic Violence Hotline:



United Kingdom

Jewish Women’s Aid Domestic

020 8445 8060

Abuse Helpline:



Sexual Violence Support Line: 0808-801-0656 

Freephone National Domestic Abuse Helpline (run by Refuge)  

0808 2000 247

Men’s Advice Line (run by Respect) is a confidential helpline for male victims 

0808 801 0327

NSPCC helpline - advice and support for concerns about a child

0808 800 5000

If you believe there is an immediate risk of harm to someone, or it is an emergency, you should always call 999

Get Help

Agunah Support

These organizations assist people around the world through the Jewish divorce process.


Yad Laisha offers free representation and consultation.

(1-800) 200-380



ORA offers guidance and assistance as well as numerous resources.

Get Jewish Divorce Justice offers advocacy, counseling and education: 

Jewish Federation of LA
6505 Wilshire Blvd.
Site: #320
Los Angeles, CA 90048
Tel. 310-730-5282



provides holistic support to women on their journeys towards getting a divorce


Unchain My Heart  provides support, advocacy and referrals for those unable to receive a Get in Australia

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